My wife talked me into writing a blog that deals with Male Infertility. The Elusive Male Perspective. Beyond that, simply enjoy and have fun with it!

Friday, June 4, 2010


Absurdism is a philosophy stating that the efforts of humanity to find inherent meaning in the universe will ultimately fail. The absurd arises out of the search for meaning and the apparent meaninglessness of infertility. How absurd are the things that we go through, in the search for the answer to having a child?

On at least four occasions I have driven with the donated sperm sample, or swimmers, as Julie and I call them, buckled into the passenger seat serving as my co-pilot. Together this dynamic duo of Yard Man and his future sidekick Lawn Boy face the DFW toll system searching for a frozen refuge.

I admit that I gave those swimmers the best fatherly pep talk I could muster. I channeled the televised inspirations of Bill Cosby, Ward Cleaver, Mike Brady and the Fonz. That pep talk I gave them would have made Patton and Vince Lombardi bluster with pride. Go impregnate my wife you pinch hitting seed from another man. Swim, Swim, SWIM I SAY! Swim until you find that egg, then impregnate, impregnate, IMPREGANATE!!!

A 43 year old man talking to a 2 ½ foot black, liquid nitrogen, vapor tank as if it’s getting ready to bat in its first baseball game. I’m sure there is nothing absurd about that.

Absurdism embraces itself in that sense of hopelessness. No matter how many times I talk to that black plastic, vapor filled case, hoping something will change, that I can make a difference in this process, I cannot.


  1. I can picture it. and it is a little absurd, but very sweet. You are going to be a kick-ass dad someday.

  2. Jeff-
    Inspired by your commitment to list the cost of infertility, I've posted all of our costs thus far on my site, with a link back to your site. I think it is a great idea, especially since there is so much variation.


  3. Love your sense of humor about this whole thing - if you can't laugh, you'll never make it. Thanks for being here!